No beauty discussions today, guys. Unfortunately, I have some disheartening news to share: Life is hard.
I really wish I didn’t have to be the one to break that news to you. I really wish it wasn’t true. But if I’ve learned anything in the last 30 years, I’ve learned that life is hard. Sometimes, it’s really hard. Various seasons and transitions in your life, even people, will utterly suck. There’s no cave to hide in, no river to cross and no mountain to climb to avoid the occasional, but certain, suck you will experience at one time or another. (Oh, so you wanted to reach a goal, too? Well that’s double the suck. Enjoy that, pumpkin.)
It doesn’t stop there. With that terrible news I offer this: Life becomes exponentially harder when you attempt to avoid the suck. (Stop looking for that cave. You’re embarrassing yourself.)
Even knowing this, I’m still guilty of trying to avoid the suck. I do it all the time. I put off writing that paper for school. I convince myself that working out when it’s raining is silly. I watch Netflix when I should be studying. I only apply lotion to the skin that’s visible because I have long limbs and ain’t nobody got time for that. I’ll probably delete that last example later. Laziness is real.
I’m learning to embrace the suck.
- A Master’s degree requires
writing papersthe suck.
- A toned body requires
- A successful blog requires
consistent bloggingthe suck.
- Healthy relationships require
occasionally picking up the phonethe suck.
- A life without back fat requires
avoiding Taco Bellthe suck.
- Earning a paycheck requires
showing up to work instead of going to the beachthe suck.
Are you picking up on a theme here? It really doesn’t matter what road you’re on, dear. There’s no getting around the suck. You either go through it, or you stand still. You cannot skip past winter to enjoy spring sooner. I tried it a few times (theoretically speaking). It only made winter (the suck) last longer.
Life is beautiful, but it’s hard. Change is hard, and it usually sucks for a little (or long) while. I’ve set so many goals and failed to see them through to completion because I bailed at the first sign of suck. No more.
You are strong enough, smart enough, and have everything you need to withstand the suck. The suck is a necessary but temporary discomfort on the road to any place worthwhile. The suck is not your enemy. Those negative, self-limiting beliefs and the spirit of laziness, are. Embrace the suck.
What does your suck look like?
Until next time. I’m rooting for you.